Dating as a concept has really grown over the past few years with social media as well as dating apps coming in. There are new trends and behaviours that are often noted by people and become prevalent.
However, some of these trends are extremely abusive and make dating a rather painful experience instead of the fun, casual activity that is supposed to be.
‘Breadcrumbing’ is a trend just like that. We’ve all heard of ‘ghosting’ where someone you’re involved with just about drops off the face of the earth without any warning or explanation. But believe me, breadcrumbing is much worse.
For example, have you ever been involved with someone who was leading you on with constant flirting and promises of a forever only to disappear on you and then was shameless enough to come back with a casual text like they did nothing wrong?
That’s ‘breadcrumbing.’ The trend is such that even if this hasn’t happened to you, you probably know someone who has been through it or someone who is putting another human being through this kind of toxic behaviour.
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Breadcrumbing essentially means that a person will flirt with you once in a while but is only leading you on without any real intent of dating you. The flirty messages, cute comments on social media and random attempts at contact are like ‘breadcrumbs’ thrown at the other person to make sure they stay ‘on the hook’ and don’t end up thinking you’re not interested at all.
A person who is into breadcrumbing will disappear from your life only to casually contact you all over again like nothing even happened. The form of contact is mostly electronic in the sense that they will ping you on social media, start tagging you on relevant memes and package all of it quite flirtatiously while claiming later that they’ve never had dating on their mind.
So, if that interesting person you met over a dating app has been asking you out for coffee for over three weeks now, only to cancel at the end, it’s a trick to keep you in the loop but that dreamy coffee date isn’t actually going to happen.
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Now, this person doesn’t always need to be someone you’ve just gotten to know or swiped right to on Tinder. It could be a person you were in a relationship with just trying to make sure that the moment you make progress towards moving on, they reappear and distract you away from actually going out and discovering some decent people who will actually make an effort to reciprocate your feelings.
Funny though that a person will put in so much effort to only be emotionally manipulative enough to trick someone into thinking that they like them instead of actually investing in a proper relationship, no?
Hence, beware of this extremely toxic trend because all things dating require some amount of investment, be it time or emotional effort, and that’s why it is so important to know who to invest in so as to save precious time as well as heartbreak.
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